Getting my licence made me think about what type of passenger I was. I would look at various people who got into my car and think to myself, do I act like that? Do I do what they’re doing right now? Small things like wanting to open the window instead of turning on the aircon in the car; that makes a difference to the driver! That drumming noise the wind makes when you don’t have all your windows open the right amount, that’s enough to burst a drum.

So this made me think, is there such a thing as passenger edicate? Are there just some things that passengers should avoid doing when they are being driven around?

With exception obviously, these are the rules that I believe all passengers should be considerate about:

  1. Lateness complaints, you are being given a lift. At least you’re getting to the venue! They don’t need to pick you up, the fact that they are picking you up is going to make them even more late! So, shouldn’t they be the ones that should be complaining because you can’t drive, don’t want to drive or can’t Uber it there yourself?


  1. Pretending to be the driver, nothing gets me more nervous while driving than when my friend is in the passenger seat also looking at whether the right lane is clear for me to merge, or WORSE, when the left lane is clear! It doesn’t matter how many times you (as a passenger) looks out into the road, the driver doesn’t have your eyes! What you see is not the same as what they can see, and their judgement is not the same as yours either.


  1. Changing car settings, with most car owners, each setting is usually preadjusted to exactly the way they like it! The aircon temperature, radio, seat and even the light; all set to exactly to the right setting they are comfortable with, so if the aircon is set on cold, ask before you start pressing on bits and bobs trying to figure out why you want hot air and only cold is coming out.


  1. Backseat drivers, this is, the worst (for me). People who get overly sensitive about everyone around them. I know a lot of friends who are car fanatics, so driving with them is as if you are resitting your driving test again. The foot tapping, gasping, and the “you shouldn’t have taken this road” after you have already turned, as if they were waiting this whole time to say that to you, because why would you not tell me that back when you realised that I was going to turn here. I know you didn’t just realise now! It gets me on edge! If you want to get so angry at all the cars we’re passing, then take their number plate down and tell them! Don’t ask me to press my horn, because you want to teach them a lesson, teach them while you’re driving your car.

This all may sometimes stem from a good place. However, just think about how you feel when someone in the back seat of your car is enraged by the driver in front of you, and is shouting at you to horn at them. It’s not your car and therefore not your rules.

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I love Valentine’s day! What is there not to love! Everyone is in a cheerful mood, love is literally all around you, and you can’t help but think about the potentially amazing things that will hopefully soon be coming your way.

Well, I mean that is if you do not die of patience while waiting for your prince charming. Having never had the opportunity to celebrate this loved up holiday my best friend and I have come up with some interesting ways of getting us through the week without feeling like we are missing out.

  1. Choose a valentine – my best friend and I have continued to be each other’s valentine since the age of 9.
  1. Discuss how you both will spend valentine day – make a list of potential date options; places you have wanted to visit, restaurants you would like to try out.
  2. Will presents be exchanged? – this is always awkward. When one person has purchased a present and the other has not so we have always for most holidays had the standard “hey, are we exchanging gifts this year?” conversation. Some may think this is unnecessary but sometimes things get in the way, finances, time commitments and so on, so we find it is best to be safe than sorry.
  1. Select an option – one year, we both woke up early to hit the shops to buy matching Pandora for one another (She purchased me the Luminous Heart Openwork Charm and I purchased her the matching ring), next, we visited Myuna farm where our outfits did not correspond to the scorching weather but we were having so much fun with all the animals that we barely noticed the heat.

But most of all, just have fun with the day. Just because you do not have a significant other to celebrate with, does not mean you cannot celebrate the day with those that you love!
Natali Perera

Author: Natali Perera

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Honesty is the best policy


Recently, I have been thinking about where the phrase “honesty is the best policy” originated from. At first, I thought maybe it was through trial and error. One day, many years ago, someone somewhere decided to lie about something. The outcome was negatively related, and hence, the individual decided that honesty was the best policy for future similar situations. Obviously, a quick search into google informed me that it was in fact a proverb from Benjamin Franklin.

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Natali Perera

My grandma once told me, “Before you go to bed, you must always say three prayers, not for your family, your parents or friends, but for you, you must be able to put yourself first”. I wasn’t a child, so I understood where she was coming from, but it seemed selfish nevertheless. I always thought, that if I look after others even better than how I treat myself, one day karma will be good to me and help you out.

As always, the older you get, the wiser you become. My grandma was correct. All those times where I placed my friends before myself, especially during school, that didn’t help me at all. In fact, it only made me go backwards, making it harder for me to progress. For example; my grades suffered because I placed others priorities before my own.

It never occurred to me, that by putting aside other people’s priorities, for just a short period of time, it would be enough for me to understand a whole chapter in maths, which would be the difference between a pass or a fail. Or if I had better contact with my teachers, I may have had the ability to confide with them my struggles; allowing them to help me correct them.

Most of all, if I have had listened to my parents and had been selfish for those short quick years, most likely all the struggles I faced would have been erased, and I would have had a smoother transition into the outside world. Instead, I was faced with a constant feeling of waiting for a miracle to happen, so my life can flow into a straight path instead of a gravel road.

Now that school has been over for a while, and I am in the outside world. I am able to say that there is no shame in saying no. If your friends are your friends, they will understand, they may tease or maybe complain, but at the end they will find a time which suits you both.

Think about it this way, if a friend asks you to help them move into their new home, but you have a broken leg, you are not going to be much use to them. However, if you take time out for yourself and help your leg heal, you will be stronger than you were before. Allowing you to help even more people in your life.

So the next time you find yourself praying, wishing or thinking. Pray for your future, wish for your wants and think about where you want to me in 10 years from now. Because I can assure you, that if you put yourself first in the present with good intentions, you will have the ability to help all those you love in the future.

By Natali Perera

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