Don’t Be a Victim of Bully or Let Others – By Nisal Rukshan
As human beings, we all are unique from each other. That specialty creates diversity refreshing the world by adding colours to the earth. Each one of us includes variances in the sectors of mental, physical, biological and social phenomena. In other words, personality, body structure, skin color, environment, and DNA like many factors empowering us. Those impacts define thoughts feelings and behaviours of one another in human beings.
But during life moments we experience different verbal and nonverbal reactions intentionally done by others which may cause, pain, shame, discrimination, stress, anxiety, fear, uncertainty, longlines, anger, threat or provoking to feel those. Such events play critical roles in anyone’s life. Thereby simply identified as bullying.
According to the explanation of the American Psychologists Association (APA), “Bullying is a form of aggressive behaviour in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words, or more subtle actions”. Further APA elaborates The bullied individual typically has trouble defending him or herself and does nothing to “cause” the bullying.
In today’s society, we are experiencing many such bullying resulting in unfortunate incidents ending with life ends or serious damage to mental and physical health. Thereby we need to know how it is streamlined, then we can adjust ourselves even to avoid such events or help someone or understand reality. Though it seems very simple like joking, name-calling, hint passing, signalling, and avoiding such consequences are highly impacting individuals, groups and the whole community.
The psychologists who researched these, categorized types major of bullying according to their findings as follows.
Verbal bullying: can be recognized as when somebody is saying or lettering injurious things or creating pressure. Examples are name-calling, Mocking, joking, threatening to cause harm and Making inappropriate comments like acts.
Social Bullying: It is also known as relational bullying, aggression or emotional. It contains intimidating someone’s status, character or affiliations. embracing someone publicly, cornering someone from a group without reason, influencing others not to be friends with someone or a group, passing gossip or rumours and many more can be recognized as examples of social bullying.
Cyber Bullying: explains a sort of harassment to someone via internet-connected devices like social media or mobile devices like test messages or even telephone calls. Examples of cyberbullying can be given as sending texts, commenting on posts, calling unwantedly, posting someone’s personal information to harm or bully and threatening someone with online chat or group.
Physical Bullying: explains physical harm or damage to someone. Meanwhile, aggressive behaviour also can be taken as a sort of physical bullying. Hitting, pushing, taking or breaking someone’s things, and showing inappropriate gestures like activities can have some situations.
Racist bullying: This explains harassing someone based on racism, like mocking and intimidating, devaluating, and discriminating against someone’s religion or race. Insulting others due to their language, dress code, customs and traditions etc.
Sexual Bullying: It explains incidents that include any undesirable sexual physical contact, unsuitable comments, or online harassment. Sexually explicit media like video footage, photographs posting or sharing, commenting, joking or showing gestures with means of sexuality, touching, and squeezing someone with sexual intentions can be explained as some patterns.
These are the some of patterns of bullying we can generally recognise in society. The worst effects of bullying affect individuals, groups, families and the overall whole society. Thereby its a need to address these sorts of issues by considering their consequences.
The adverse effects caused due to bullying can recognised as follows:
- Suicides
- Mental disorders
- Family issues
- Personality issues
- Anti-social behaviours
- Crimes
- Anxieties
- Phobias
- Psychotic behaviours
- Serial Killings /Rapes and much more.
If someone asks what we or I can do for this the answer is simple.at three times we can assist someone.
One Before Bullying: we can avoid it or stop someone who is doing so..Take away the victimizing person
Two During Bullying: Take the victim away or raise your action against bullying. Take away the victimizing person. Assist the victim to bear up.
Three After Bullying: Give emotional support, try to understand the reality and show pathways to cure including legal procedures and mental health practices.
Especially its must be remembered no one has a right to bully others. Thereby most states established laws or institutions to assist victims and bring justice. Police, and mental health institutions, are highly committed to overcoming such challenges with a humanistic view.
Hence at times you face such an incident as an observer or victim Be mindful, don’t go for simple conclusions which end up in your own life or someone’s life. You have options like talking to someone closer and seeking assistance legally or mental health recovery for justice.
Nisal Rukshan, MHRM, BA (Defence), BSc (Hons.) Counselling Psychology, DCPsy
Email: rukshan4slsr@gmail.com
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