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Spirituality to Materialism to Spirituality – By Oscar E V Fernando

Oscar Fernando


Church and bible treasured as gold

Tendered the fields and farms in peaceful flow

With morning prayers and breakfast fill

The tools and lunch they went to till

With Fall of man no perfection to behold

Disparity there was with poor and rich with gold

Greed set in and the gap got wide

Frustration and anger brought revolution worldwide

Accumulation through greed and discoveries untold

Brought in the magic called industrial revolution to behold

Spiritless work were the norms that lead to more wealth

Systems developed to protect the wealth and keep the health

With more competition and greed the evening bell receded to toll

To gather folks in homes for spirit to unfold

Crushed by the ever fast lane of that new god of Industry

The world of spirit hauled under the rubble of indecency


The world so became fast materialistic with fall in values of spirituality

The youth so lost with the material gains of industry

Looked far beyond for that lost spirituality

And finds it with the mendicant monks in the monastery

The west that began with the bible, church and God

Was so frenzied with wealth and power banned the word God

Now the clock that turned back is ticking forward to seek the same God

With all that’s eloquent in songs books and videos spelling out the name of God

The more that’s read in modern thoughts in eloquence and style

The more is read of those values ancient that was under the rubble all the while

The world with the youth is seen walking back on the path of spirit

To churches and temples to dip into the ancient reservoir of Divine Spirit

Away from annoyed nature with global warming, floods tornadoes and human vengeance

The silent call by god is so loud and clear that it bangs the ears with a message in a tangence

Signs so clear that humanity will after the lesson get back to that that Golden Vision of Splendor

That keeps the Universe in much harmony to those that live in Spirit close to that grandeur.

Oscar E V Fernando

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Missive by OEVF – An Obituary printed in the London Times…..Absolutely Dead Brilliant!!

Oscar Fernando

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years.

No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

– Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
– Why the early bird gets the worm; 
– Life isn’t always fair;
– And maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn’t defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death, 
-by his parents, Truth and Trust, 
-by his wife, Discretion,
-by his daughter, Responsibility,
-and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 5 stepchildren; 
– I Know My Rights 
– I Want It Now
– Someone Else Is To Blame
– I’m A Victim
– Pay me for Doing Nothing

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone. 
If you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do nothing

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The Sky Gets Dark, Slowly (a Missive sent in by Oscar E V Fernando)

Oscar Fernando

Mao Dun literary prize winner Zhou Daxin’s latest novel to be published, “The Sky Gets Dark, Slowly”, is a sensitive exploration of old age and the complex, hidden emotional worlds of the elderly in a  rapidly ageing population.

In it he writes, “…Many elderly speak as though they know everything, but of old age they are in fact as ignorant as children. Many elderly are in fact, completely unprepared for what they are to face when it comes to getting old and the road that lays ahead of them.

In the time between a person turning 60 years old, as they begin to age, right until all the lights go out and the sky gets dark, there are some situations to keep in mind, so that you will be prepared for what is to come, and you will not panic.


The people by your side will only continue to grow smaller in number. People in your parents’ and grandparents’ generation have largely all left, whilst many your peers will increasingly find it harder to look after themselves, and the younger generations will all be busy with their own lives. Even your wife or husband may depart earlier than you, or than you would expect, and what might then come are days of emptiness. You will have to learn how to live alone, and to enjoy and embrace solitude.


Society will care less and less for you. No matter how glorious your previous career was or how famous you were, ageing will always transform you into a regular old man and old lady. The spotlight no longer shines on you, and you have to learn to contend with standing quietly in one corner, to admire and appreciate the hubbub and views that come after you, and you must overcome the urge to be envious or grumble.


The road ahead will be rocky and full of precarity. Fractures, cardio-vascular blockages, brain atrophy, cancer… these are all possible guests that could pay you a visit any time, and you would not be able to turn them away. You will have to live with illness and ailments, to view them as friends, even; do not fantasise about stable, quiet days without any trouble in your body. Maintaining a positive mentality and get appropriate, adequate exercise is your duty, and you have to encourage yourself to keep at it consistently.


Prepare for bed-bound life, a return to the infant state. Our mothers brought us into this world on a bed, and after a journey of twists and turns and a life of struggle, we return to our starting point – the bed – and to the state of having to be looked after by others. The only difference being, where we once had our mothers to care for us, when we prepare to leave, we may not have our kin to look after us. Even if we have kin, their care may never come close to that of your mother’s; you will, more likely than not, be cared for by nursing staff who bear zero relation to you, wearing smiles on their faces all whilst carrying weariness and boredom in their hearts. Lay still and don’t be difficult; remember to be grateful.


There will be many swindlers and scammers along the way. Many of them know that the elderly have lots of savings, and will endlessly be thinking of ways to cheat them of their money: through scam phone calls, text messages, mail, food and product samples, get-rich-quick schemes, products for longevity or enlightenment… basically, all they want is to get all the money. Beware, and be careful, hold your money close to you. A fool and his money are soon parted, so spend your pennies wisely.

Before the sky gets dark, the last stretches of life’s journey will gradually get dimmer and dimmer; naturally, it will be harder to see the path ahead that you are treading towards, and it will be harder to keep going forward. As such, upon turning 60, it would do us all well to see life for what it is, to cherish what we have, to enjoy life whilst we can, and to not take on society’s troubles or your children’s and grandchildren’s affairs on for yourself. Stay humble, don’t act superior on account of your own age and talk down to others – this will hurt yourself as much as it will hurt others. As we get older, all the better should we be able to understand what respect is and what it counts for. In these later days of your lives, you have to understand what it means, to let go of your attachments, to mentally prepare yourself. The way of nature is the way of life; go with its flow, and live with equanimity.

*******For all of us, a nice read, very beautiful, very true …. !

Hardly the day started and …  it is already six o’clock in the evening.

Barely arrived on Monday and it’s already  Friday.

… and the month is almost over.

… and the year is almost up.

… and already 50 or 60 or 70 years of our lives have passed.

… and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.

and we realize that it is too late to go back …

So …  Let’s try  to take full advantage of the time we have left …

Let’s not stop looking for activities that we like …

Let’s put color in our greyness …

Let’s smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.

And yet, we must continue to enjoy serenely the time that remains.

Let’s try to eliminate the “after” …

I do it after …

I will say after …

I will think about it after …

We leave everything for ‘later’ as if “after” was ours.

Because what we do not understand is that:

after,  the coffee cools …

after,  priorities change …

after,  the charm is broken …

after,  health passes …

after,  the children grow up …

after,  the parents get older …

after,  the promises are forgotten …

after,  the day becomes the night …

after,  life ends …

And all that afters, we find it’s often too late ….

So …  leave nothing for ‘later’ …

Because in always waiting for later, we can lose the best moments, the best experiences, the best friends, the best family …

The day is today … The moment is now …

We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone until tomorrow what needs to be done right away.

So let’s see if you’ll have time to read this message and then share it.

Or maybe you’ll leave it for … “later” …

And you will not share it “ever” ….

Even share with those who are not yet “seniors”.

May you be well and happy

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Euthanasia – By Oscar E V Fernando

Oscar Fernando


Image Source:-St David’s Cathedral

Euthanasia is defined as an act or practice of ending the life of a person who is suffering from an incurable and often painful or distressing illness-in ‘a gentle and easy death’

On the other hand, suicide is defined as an instance of killing oneself deliberately.

Science, medically and otherwise has developed rapidly-but has it given a place to morality in this fast pace of material development?

Some say this and some say that!

It is worth considering whether all medical advancements help humanity;

·      If they treat people as objects

·      If applied only to-people who are not considered a burden and therefore deserve to be helped.

·      If it is based on the utilitarian view of a person-who becomes useless: a set of values based on the belief that an action is morally right only if it benefits the majority of people

·      If equated with a cost

·      If medically considered of no improvement

·      If in pain that could no longer be avoided.

·      That only the common good should be considered.

·      If they focus only of illness but not on the patient to be cared for.

·      If technology is not for service of people without reducing them to things

·      If they distinguish between who still deserves to be cured and who does not because they are a burden to be thrown awa

Arguments for euthanasia:

·      allowing people to ‘die with dignity’ is kinder than forcing them to continue their lives with suffering.

·      that every patient has a right to choose when to die.

·      belief that euthanasia can be safely regulated by government legislation

Arguments against euthanasia

·      Alternative treatments are available, such as palliative care and hospices. We do not have to kill the patient to kill the symptoms.  Nearly all pain can be relieved.

·      There is no ‘right’ to be killed and there are real dangers of ‘slippery slopes’. Opening the doors to voluntary euthanasia could lead to non-voluntary and involuntary euthanasia, by giving doctors the power to decide when a patient’s life is not worth living. 

·      In the Netherlands in 1990 around 1,000 patients were killed without their request.

·      We could never truly control it. Reports from the Netherlands, where euthanasia and physician-assisted suicide are legal, reveal that doctors do not always report it.

·      The assumption that patients should have a right to die would impose on doctors a duty to kill, thus restricting the autonomy of the doctor. 

·      The ‘right to die’ for some people might well become a ‘duty to die’ by others, particularly those who are vulnerable or dependent upon others.

A Religious view point is as follows;

·      accompany patients throughout their illness

·      provide palliative care and hospice, which will help contribute to “a culture and practices more attentive to the value of every person.

·      instead of encouraging euthanasia, to warn persons not to be discouraged by lack of understanding by modernist thought to take the easy way out.

·      concentrate on technological improvements in prevention of diseases like cancer by regular tests and healthy habits.

·      “The best and truest prevention, in fact, is a healthy environment and a lifestyle that respects the human body” and how it works, and for this by living in places with lesser stress avoiding major city centers, that subject the body to constant stress” because of their fast-paced lifestyle and exposure to pollutants.

·      take care of the natural world, “our common home which we have to respect so that it respects us back.

·      Safeguard the environment and the fight against tumors and other maladies then become two sides of the same problem, two complementary aspects of the same battle.

There is also a strong religious belief that a human being created by the Almighty Creator in His image and Likeness should not be killed by another-debated though!

Above is only a tip of the ‘Iceberg-Euthanasia’

Readers can delve further into the subject on internet or otherwise.

The interest of the writer is to point out the visible chaos in the world-also debatable-and to ponder whether a look into the face of morality is worth the while!

Oscar E V Fernando

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Seeking truth in the Fallen World – by Oscar E V Fernando

World full of turmoil and grief-we see no end-no perfection.
Seek and seek for truth-truth eludes us in grand design.
Exasperated, we curse the Vast Creation
Look around and blame Creators Omniscient Vision.

Seems so true when a child born deformed we see suffering
Wars-wars-no end-with no surrender
In logic-no explanation-cry out with justified grieving
And blame the Creator for such continued blunder,

Some would see futility in seeking whole Truth
With no surrender-some would reel with the search
With search no end-unshaven beard-they end recluse
Thoughts unresolved-fingers with logic moved on same search

Only Creator would know the end of his search
Take Augustine-searched for Truth-saw the child-
Trying Empty ocean to the hole she dug in fervent faith
Augustine Embraced faith-earned doctorate-releasing futile logic of that same child

Oscar Fernando

Oscar E V Fernando

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Servant Leadership – New wine in Old Wine-skin –
By Oscar E.V. Fernando


Oscar FernandoServant Leadership (SL) is a term, coined by Robert K. Greenleaf in his essay on SL first published in 1970, on propounding a corporate management technique: it says the leader should be affectionately considerate to his subordinate-who in turn will cause a ripple effect.

Much waters have flown under the bridge since the Dickensian cruelty to children in the then newly opened factories with the industrial revolution.

Following are highlights of the SL theory;

  • A leader should be a person that workers can relate to
  • priority is to serve rather than to command
    to ensure success and power to the employee.
  • to appreciate that a servant can become a leader only if the leader is first a servant to his subordinate.
  • Such behavior of a leader must result in workers becoming healthier and wiser with self-improvement and eventually possessing the traits of Servant Leaders themselves.

Several other authors have expanded on the theory and said the 10 characteristics of SL are;

  • Listening,
  • Empathy,
  • healing,
  • awareness,
  • persuasion,
  • conceptualization,
  • foresight, stewardship,
  • commitment to the growth of others, and building a community
  • Servant Leaders are individuals of character who put people first and are skilled communicators, compassionate collaborators, use foresight, be system thinkers and exercise moral authority.

Teachings on the concept of kindness and love towards one’s subordinates were prevalent in ancient society too, though sometimes accompanied in practice by evident severe cruelty to servants and slaves.

Ancient texts have passages akin to SL by philosophers like Lao Tzu and Confucius of early China.

In the Old Testament Bible, as old as the hills there are passages about the intrinsic love within human beings. It also foretells the coming of a Messiah to save mankind who though created in love had turned cruel over the years due to variously disputed reasons. 

Does it not reveal how long this very natural norm of love and affection had been lost sight of with the struggle for higher profit in business- thoughts that have been lying buried under the rubble of modernist thinking?

One such teaching that comes down the ages from the Old Testament in the Bible is the command to: Love God; Neighbor; Self.

The Messiah, foretold in the Old Testament, also preached the same love specifically by word of mouth and lived it practically in his life and death.

Here is a passages bearing on Servant Leadership in the New Testament Bible centuries before 1970:

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them – not so with you – instead whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant.”

Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many-showing this servility by washing the feet of his disciples! 

This voice of nearly 2,000 years ago still vibrates from the present Leader of this group Pope Francis, who says: “Lead from the heart and then from the head. Lead to serve. Leaders’ power does not reside in being right but in being real. Bring hope, equality and opportunity to those who have little.”

People long for leaders who put the interests of others ahead of their own, who are willing to do what is right above what is easy or politically expedient, and who are not afraid to lay their reputation on the line for a cause and a vision that is vastly bigger than themselves.

Now after years of denial, a new theory has to be propounded and further research has to be done to revive it?

This commandment of love is what rings throughout in the New Testament Bible. Curiously; this is also what is highlighted by modern writers and singers such as Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Eckert Tolle, Greenleaf, Jim Reeves, the singer and many others who by eloquent and modern emphasis on love have written and sung for the immense benefit of our present day society!

Do we not see that the theory of Servant Leadership conforms to the earlier and the later independent teachings of religious leaders and the Ancient Church, and that it is new wine in an old wine skin – now commercially packaged appealingly for the benefit of society!?

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Reverence for Life. – By Oscar E V Fernando

Reverence for Life (RL), in a broad sense, may be taken as respect or veneration for the life of plants, animals and human beings.

It is the belief of some that a human being is only an animal and others connote sacredness or morality to a human being, depending on one’s religious belief. On this concept depends the approach to the meaning of (RL)

Does it need moral teaching to conclude RL?

Observing the world around and the behavior of living creatures would be sufficient to revere life!

Following are some thoughts of the Great Humanitarian Philosopher and Writer AlbertSchweitzer-1875 –1965;

·       Ethics alone will prompt us to believe that RL involves maintaining life, and that to destroy it, without purpose, is evil.

·       The only one thing we are certain of is that we live, and that we want to go on living-until natural death.

·       In nature we become aware that RL is something we share with all living creatures-birds in the air, elephants in the forest-extending to even the blade of grass.

·      It follows that we are brothers and sisters to all living things and therefore we owe them the same care and respect we wish for ourselves.

In view of the many philosophical divergences attributed to Schweitzer’s writings, the following aspects of his thoughts are highlighted;

·       In his books he had adverted to the Old Testament Bible, which is as old as the hillsthe Admonishment-Thou Shalt not Kill-and in the New Testament the story of the Good Samaritan-who came to the aid of a suffering person of an unfriendly camp, without passing him on his way.

·       He also composed a prayer in his childhood that ran-“O heavenly Father, protect and bless all things that have breath, guard them from all evil, and let them sleep in peace….” 

·       He admonished the concept of ethics calling it a responsibility without limit toward all that live-connoting that love includes fellowship in suffering and joy.

·       He adverted to the fact that in today’s society, the concept of Free Will inherent in human beings to choose between right or wrong is submerged and replaced with the will to do what we want.

·       On the basis of this Free Will He Said-I am life that wills to live in the midst of life that wills to live and resolved to stop living thoughtlessly: he thus began to revere life-in order to give life a true meaning!

·       In 1920 he adverted to the fact that lack of RL was the cause of the decline in Western Civilization: he noted that west failed to realize that industrial progress should have been mixed with RL.

·       In the rapid progress of the Industrial Revolution mankind overlooked ethics of RL-to realize that one can only destroy life under a necessity he cannot avoid, and never from thoughtlessness.

We see that by nature alone and/or moral teachings we are prone to revere life: take the case of a twelve-week fetus infant in the womb receding when forceps get near it to be crushed for abortion-as if to say-Stop-stop I want to go on living (see the video Clip-Scream of the Babe)

Much can be inferred from the writings of Saint Francis of Assisi who says;

·       Praise to God for every one of his works.

·       Every creature cried out to him-he who made us is infinitely good

·       He called animals, brother and sister and exhorted them to praise God together with people on the street

Life of a human being is sacred for Christians who believe that a human being was created in the Image and Likeness of God, according to the Genesis chapter in the bible-to be read in conjunction with the strides taken by Vatican to get closer to Darwin’s theory of evolution-and this may be read on the internet!

Why do humans destroy life and more important-why do they encourage other humans to destroy life-when from within a voice is heard not to do the wrong thing by killing? Should we not avoid killing-be it in normal times or in war?

In contrast to the above, it is interestingly worth pondering as to;

·      Why some say it is a sin to kill but-consume what is killed-with no qualms of conscience as they did not kill.

·      Some consume what is killed by concluding animals are not sacred unlike human beings and therefore can be killed for consumption-although the killing is brutal and a far sight from the concept of RL.

·      Some point out that nature allows the mightier animal to kill the weaker and consume it-and therefore justify palatable meats on the table.

·      Others point out that consuming meats is nutritionally beneficial-followed by some who say life in any form should be protected and only kill for say, nutritional or other purposes.

 Will we not resist if a higher intellectual creature than we are attempt to kill us to satisfy its palate?

But of course, if there is a will there is a way-to refrain from meat eating!!

The writer can only leave the readers with these thoughts to ponder!

Oscar E V Fernando

August 28, 2019

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Whence we came and Whither we go!? – By Oscar E V Fernando

Oscar Fernando

A Still Void it was, and Lo! What darkness before He summoned Light,
When the Ocean, Firmament and a Vault of Blue above-shone Bright.
The Eternal Breath breathed into to the slime–Yes! Be it dust or beast!
There we were in the Breath of Spirit-no beginning no end no retreat.
Somewhere between The Soul and ours-a quirk of pride occurred.
The soul fell from Grandeur and thereafter in sweat we labored-
To earn back that Grandeur, He sent His Son to expiate and suffer.
From thence it was-we see glimpses but await the Final Grandeur 
In that Soul Divine was an atomic strand with no matter and form-
Floating in Blissful Grandeur, till its consummation in womb with genes so formed.
T’is whence we came-now we search Whiter we go in spirit therein.
Searching from womb to tomb that Grandeur we earlier dwelt in
To this spirit He breathed a sense of Right and Wrong.
Left it with Free Will for that discerned Right or Wrong.
If right we do, the departing strand will see Heavens Bliss in Grandeur
If wrong, we do He shows His Grandeur and says-depart to everlasting Non Grandeur
Whence we came we thus Know-Whither we go too we know and we must endeavor-
To live according to His Will-only then behold we see this Grandeur forever.
If wrong, we do the oppose happens and we see non-Grandeur forever-we and only we are to blame!
Mea Culpa Mea Culpa Mea Maxima Culpa-the parting strand thus accepts flame.
Brother Sister why be lost? -know the truth of whence and whither.
And also we know what we are, within and without-this accept with no whimper.
Resort to whence ye came-that Ageless Wisdom-when in distress.
No drugs-no vengeance no killings-go within and meet the Light that Destroyed Darkness.
Oscar E V Fernando
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Aiding aged with Alzheimer’s – By Oscar E.V.



Oscar Fernando

With the advancement of civilization, science and technology, problems of ageing too seem to have advanced! One of the dreaded problems is Alzheimer’s disease (AD). 

Ageing is an unstoppable journey leading to second childhood and eventually infancy. AD has expedited this process for some. But we have on medical advice that with proper health care, timely observation and preventive measures, the aged can be less of a burden to family and society with onset of AD. 

Forgetfulness in old age is common to all humanity. But with AD it is a sickness. 

AD is a frightening and debilitating illness that is characterized by “confusion, memory failure, disorientation, restlessness, amnesia, speech disturbances, inability to carry out purposeful movements, and hallucinations” (‘Mosby’s Medical, Nursing and Allied Heath Dictionary’).

The symptoms can best be exemplified with an excerpt from ‘The 36-Hour Day,’ a book for families and caregivers of people with (AD).

“Often, Mary was afraid, a nameless, shapeless fear. Her impaired mind could not put a name or an explanation to her fear. People came, memories came, and then they slipped away. She could not tell what was real and what was not. The bathroom was not where it was yesterday. Dressing became an insurmountable ordeal….Mary gradually lost the ability to make sense out of what her eyes and ears told her….She worried about her things: a chair, and the china that had belonged to her mother. They said they had told her over and over, but she could not remember where her things had gone. Perhaps someone had stolen them. She had lost so much…. Mary was glad when her family came to visit. Sometimes she remembered their names; more often she did not. She never remembered that they had come last week, so she regularly scolded them for abandoning her….She was glad when they didn’t try to remind her of what she had just said or that they had come last week, or ask her if she remembered this person or that one. She liked it best when they just held her and loved her.”

“Although the risk of AD developing increases with age, in most people symptoms first appear after age 60 and it is found that AD rapidly increases between the ages 65 and 85. Medical science is still in the quest of finding its causes. That AD is not a part of normal aging is concluded with the knowledge that, in the absence of disease, the human brain often can function well into the tenth decade of life,” say medical researchers. 

People today are often puzzled about various terms used in the field of forgetfulness. Dementia is a term used to describe a range of illnesses that affect a person’s ability to think, to reason and to remember. Although AD is the most common form of dementia that can effect elders, it can also effect people in their forties or even younger. The term amnesia has been medically defined as the inability to recall an event which has ended, and the patient thereafter returning to normal self and is said to be common among those who are tensed, anxious and trying to have too many irons in the fire, whatever be the age. 

By taking treatment it is researched that although AD cannot be cured, at least it can be slowed down. 

In the question of life of an AD patient, it may be asked whether it is mere existence, with total custodian care, or with early detection and preventive treatment, a patient’s quality of life is sustained to make it easier for the patient and the care givers who are hard to find in this busy world of hectic activity!

It has been researched that AD is probably the only illness that can truly be described as being the opposite of birth. The brain begins shrinking as the disease progresses and the layers of learning are stripped away in much the same order in which they were laid on from birth. At death, the brain resembles that of a newborn infant. This implies that family members and care givers have to be mindful that up to the point of reaching this stage, the patient responds to love, touch emotion and the care givers’ sympathetic understanding similar to the responses of a new born infant!

With the onset of age should we not be alert to keep our minds occupied to ensure there are no mental and physical atrophies that may trigger such diseases as AD? Should not the family members too make discreet observations for their own sake as well as for the sake of their dear ones?

It is said that caring for an AD patient at home can be very demanding both physically and emotionally – it can make one feel lonely. Each day brings new challenges as the caregiver copes with changing levels of ability and new patterns of behavior. Much compassion, will power, adjustments and adaptations may be necessary in the long run. It implies caring for the patient’s general health, keeping an eye on his/her daily activities, avoiding risk of injuries, preventing infections, drug and recreation management and doing all this with much love and care. As the disease gets worse and caring at home becomes increasingly difficult, family members will face difficult decisions about long-term care. 

Research has found that the worst that can happen to an AD patient is to be put away from the home environment. With no love and attention the disease could be worsened. But on pragmatic terms in a poor country such as ours, family caregivers will be hard to find as they will not be able to cope with the attention needed, and at the same time be gainfully employed and tend to their own families. These are matters that our civil society will have to deal with in addition to providing homes for the aged and other elderly care. 

Would it surprise readers to know that a caregiver must first cultivate loving oneself before being capable of loving and caring for another person, according to a book on instructions to care givers? Does it connote self-esteem? Does it also not echo the Second Commandment given to Moses several millennia ago, “to love thy neighbor as thyself”?

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Panacea for Global Distress by Ancient/Modern writers.- By Oscar E V Fernando


Oscar Fernando

Henry Ford the well-known American business tycoon was asked by Dale Carnegie if he ever worried about business-he replied;
“No. I believe God is managing affairs and he does not need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe that everything will work out for the best in the end” He lived with, and also thrived in business, with this opinion that he firmly believed in!
Cynics and many others would express different opinions: an opinion is defined in the Chamber’s dictionary as a view held as probable: Is a probability worth arguing, quarreling and ending in fisticuffs? Take what is best to live by-express it mildly-but let others live with their own opinion: that is the most acceptable Lifestyle
Catastrophes around the globe, amidst the busy-mess with Inflation, GDP, Cost of Living Index, FD I’s, Deficit Budgets etc., bring to our minds the thoughts of the world’s Greats-Lord Buddha, Prophet Mohamed Christ Jesus, Confucius, Gandhi and other modern writers  such as Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer Eckert Tolle- for wisdom and guidance
A step back from the busy-mess will ease out thinking on these very socially necessary problems: perhaps a Common Prayer room set apart in most International Airports, is evident witness of this stepping back from hopping planes, for these crisis-crossing businessmen-or magnates.
This writer opines on some thoughts of Christ Jesus.
Take the sermon he delivered on a mountain to thousands who followed him at that time-popularly called The Sermon on the Mount.
We see from the life of Christ that he retreated to the mountains and desert for silent meditation to receive guidance for his spirit to redeem Fallen Mankind from the wrath of sin-perhaps a good practice to be adopted by busy modernists!
He revealed Divine Wisdom mostly in parables and left his followers to discern in the silence: his thoughts were later scripted into a book.
He revolutionized a world where the norm was-an eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth-much the same as how Lord Buddha transformed society by teaching that hatred will never cease with hatred.
His teachings however were not in the realm of logic to be reasoned out-but to be understood in pure faith-faith that must be stayed upon and pondered, to blossom into a logical belief in the Eternal Truth within us-as creatures in the image and likeness of the Creator
He spoke in parables but yet millions follow his teachings to earn the Kingdom within and without that he revealed
He admonished followers to be poor in spirit-a thought out of the blues in a world that rushes to get richer so as to acquire all the goodies they desire. Did this imply that we should live literally poor all life through? No.
He encouraged followers to use their talents to enrich themselves and thereby share the wealth with needy neighbors who were less talented and are poor. He told the rich man to sell all he has and watched his reaction, to teach the world the correct attitude to wealth-as to whether he possess it in his heart or just own the wealth in paper as a trustee for the Creator. He showed the difference between possession and ownership; the former is idolatry of wealth which he decried at every turn and taught the rich young man that what troubled him was possessiveness of and idolizing his wealth.
Would not, poor in spirit imply-that one must empty self-will and compromise on preconceived notions-not rely only on one’s own judgment, but seek to find other opinions-not be overly proud of one’s academic distinctions-be humble to face ridicule when standing up for rights: these are just a smattering of examples in spiritual poverty!
Thus we see the difference between literal poverty and poverty in spirit-that leads to Peace and Prosperity.
He also taught his followers to mourn, expecting comfort to come in due time and place. This, on face value is a discomforting admonishment, in a world with a rush for happiness and joy, even with drugs and the pill. Isn’t this very same rush that causes a person to mourn followed by depression, stress and anxiety? We thereby bring upon ourselves that mourning and suffering-then throw up hands asking the good and loving Creator why he also created suffering that leads to mourning-forgetting that it came about due to the abuse of Free Will that is the spice of life to earn or not the eternal reward and without which a human is reduced to a mere vegetable.
The so called wise men will go on arguing the pros and cons of this statement but the Wise Teacher taught and showed followers to abide in faith and even wait in mourning for the Resurrection that follows the Crucifixion-an inevitability to be accepted with resignation and contentment.
Yes-he waited with patience and subdued emotion on the cross-subdued to the extent that he looked up and asked his Father in heaven to forgive the enemies who crucified him: it is this same person who said that those who mourn with patience will be comforted at the right time and place and eventually they will be with him in Paradise-obviously a matter of Faith that blossoms to fruition on pondering-not logic to reason out!
He also preached-to be meek to inherit the earth. To be meek is to have a mild and gentle temperament and also it can mean to be submissive-not giving into self-willed pride. Such submissiveness to the Creator and thereby to the rightful worldly authority, will make one inherit the earth: it may imply that with rightful submission one would enjoy the fruits of the earth-meaning all one’s rightful desires.
This meekness is not the crafty act of a Uriah Heep in Dickens’s David Copperfield to be ‘umble with head bent cheekily, to get what he wants sneakily: it is to be meek and submissive like Moses, and through that meek submissiveness to be commissioned to be bold to lead the Israelite s  to the Promised Land!
He called those who hunger and thirst for righteousness-Blessed. This is to search and do what is right and not to give into a wrongful act for an immediate gain-in short not to be lured by a bribe for easy riches and power-but painfully pursue what is Right
He says-Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. Mercy is kindness or forgiveness shown when punishment is possible or justified.
Mercy is not throwing a coin when passing a beggar-but to stop and, if needed, tend to his wounds-to assist a man bleeding and struggling for breath after being knocked down by a vehicle-to invite to the table those poor and hungry groveling under the table to eat the fallen crumbs: it is to be moved in heart and just not vainly exhibit wealth and position.
True mercy is a movement of heart and not just hands and feet: to only exhibit a kind act without a kind heart is hypocrisy. To such genuine and sincere mercy the Creator’s mercy will flow.
Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. His followers know that all mankind is made in the Image and Likeness of God. If in your heart you are in conformity with his will at every choice you have to make, then you will be blessed-the true meaning of the prayer-Thy Will be Done.
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God-this echoes the song-Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me. With constant communion with Spirit we get into the realm of peace and serenity that dissolves stress and strain-for he said-be like children to experience heavenly bliss-not be bloated up with omnipotence-to think you are all powerful and omniscience-to think you are all knowing
Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Persecution for most people is the sacrifice of life for the sake of truth-and it is so. Could it not also be that in our daily choices we persecute ourselves by using our free will to do the right instead of wrong? It may be to refuse ill-gotten money and persecute our inclination to do otherwise!
Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. It may be in society you stand up and speak the truth when most others contradict and vilify you and say you are a deranged fanatic-bare it up and you will see unexpected blessings flow into your life!
He goes on with the following admonishments;
Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savor, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.
Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid.
Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; nor does it give light unto all that are in the house.
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
It is very evident that all the above Pearls of Wisdom that had been buried in the rubble of confusion, is now unearthed by modern and eloquent writers to help the modernists as a panacea  for global illnesses, such as-depression-anxiety-stress and other mental agonies!
Oscar E V Fernando

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